Burial is an important step to consider after a death. It is a symbolic transition deeply rooted in funeral traditions, allowing a final tribute to the departed. Today, families have several choices to respect the wishes of the deceased while considering the needs of loved ones. Whether you choose a traditional burial or a more personalized approach, every decision carries meaning.
What does burial mean?
Burial refers to the act of placing a body or ashes in the ground, whether in a coffin or an urn. It can take two main forms:
- Burial of the body, in a casket placed in the earth.
- Burial of the cremated remains, in an urn buried in a cemetery lot.
This gesture provides a specific place for remembrance, to keep the memory alive, and to pass on an enduring legacy to future generations.
Option 1: Burial in a Casket
What is it?
Casket burial is the most traditional form of burial. The deceased’s body is placed in a casket, then buried in the ground. A casket must be buried in a cemetery, either in an individual or family plot.
Advantages
- A permanent place for loved ones to gather and remember.
- A lasting family legacy: several generations can visit and honor their loved ones.
- A respected tradition, especially in some religious faiths.
Things to consider
- The cost of the cemetery plot.
- Cemetery regulations regarding monuments, maintenance, or duration of the burial rights.
- Personalization options: headstone, epitaph, planting flowers, etc.
Option 2: Burial of Cremated Remains In an Urn
What is it?
Contrary to popular belief that urns are always placed in a columbarium, it is also possible to bury an urn. This means the urn is placed in a burial lot designated for ashes, usually in a cemetery. This practice combines cremation with the traditional burial ritual.
Advantages
- A concrete place for remembrance, similar to casket burial.
- A more affordable option than casket burial while maintaining a dedicated space for memory.
- Possibility of adding a monument or headstone to mark the location and honor the deceased.
- Suitable for families who wish to respect the burial rite even after cremation.
- Allows family members who chose casket burial or urn burial to be united in the same family lot.
Things to consider
- The cost of the cemetery plot (often smaller than for a casket).
- Cemetery regulations, which vary by location.
- Space in the plot: some lots allow multiple urns.
Other Options Available with Cremation
Scattering of Ashes
What is it?
This involves scattering the ashes of the deceased in a meaningful place, such as nature, a memorial garden, or a location important to the deparcted.
Advantages
- A symbolic and liberating gesture.
- Freedom to choose a personal, significant place.
- No long-term maintenance or upkeep required.
Things to consider
- Compliance with Quebec laws regarding ash scattering.
- The absence of a physical place for loved ones to visit.
- The emotional impact on family members, as some may need a tangible place for remembrance.
Keeping the Urn at Home or in a Keepsake
Some families choose to keep the urn at home or preserve part of the ashes in a keepsake (jewelry, statue, or souvenir). This option maintains an intimate connection with the departed but should be considered carefully for the long term: what will happen to the urn many years later or after our own death?
Columbarium as a Place of Memory
In many cemeteries, columbariums are an integral feature. They allow the urn to be placed permanently in a niche.
Advantages
- Various options: indoor, outdoor, marble, granite, or glass-front niches.
- Easy access for loved ones throughout the year.
- Some cemeteries offer niches for individuals, couples, or families.
Things to consider
- Some cemeteries only offer niches for a limited number of years.
- Limited space means careful selection of urn size is important.
- Restrictions on urn materials may apply depending on the cemetery.
How to Choose the Best Option?
There is no universal solution. The right choice depends on the deceased’s values, the family’s wishes, and practical considerations.
Respect the wishes of the deceased
If the deceased expressed specific preferences, it’s essential to honor them. If not, a family discussion can help make an informed choice.
This is why pre-planning funerals can be a valuable step: funeral prearrangements allow you to make choices in advance, relieve your family, and ensure your wishes are respected.
Consider the needs of loved ones
Some families need a physical place for reflection; others prefer a symbolic gesture. It’s important to balance the wishes of the deceased with the needs of those left behind.
Evaluate practical and financial considerations
Every option involves different realities: plot costs, contract duration, maintenance, type of ceremony, etc. Being well-informed helps you make a choice that is realistic and sustainable.
Seek professional advice
The team at Mount Royal Commemorative Services is here to guide you with compassion. Whether you wish to discuss your options or plan in advance, we’re here to listen, without pressure.
A Tribute that Reflects the Deceased
Every choice made after a death is a way to say goodbye, honor a life, and keep memories alive. Whether you choose casket burial, urn burial, or ash scattering, what matters most is finding an option that reflects the life, values, and bonds you shared with the deceased.
For nearly 175 years, Mount Royal Commemorative Services has supported families during these important moments. With our experience, attentive service, and dedication, we help you make informed choices that meet your needs and respect your beliefs.
